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November 2008

November 18th, 2008 - Stand

by alexmctighe on November 18, 2008

in Letters from the future

Dear Alex,

Tell me, what made you wait so long to write? I’ll say this, I was worried you had decided to go it alone. I remember what you have been and will be going through, and I am glad you have written to me again.

I’d like to tell you that everything happens for a reason, and where I stand today is your destiny. However, it’s like this, if I tell you what’s going to happen, who’s to say you don’t change it. If I can tell you one thing it is this: make sure you look out for yourself in this situation. Whatever happens, you need to make sure that you are moving forward. It is much better to be proactive then reactive, especially in this time of uncertainty.

Take a step back, look at your surroundings again. Though I can not tell you what the next couple of weeks hold, I do know that if you are self confident and keep a positive mental attitude, you will come out on top, no matter where you end up.

You don’t need to give me a run down of everything that has gone on since we last wrote, I remember. I don’t want you forget, you are the sum of all your experiences. Though this does not mean you are destined for a certain fate, meant to experience a certain event, or are travelling along a predetermined path.

All of your choices are yours and yours alone. So, maybe what you need to be looking for is an answer to the question “Why did I do this?” instead of “Why did this happen to me?” You chose to end your relationship, you chose to move to LA, you chose to continue to work for a company you knew was dealing with financial trouble, these events were not thrust upon you.

Have fun in Los Angeles, enjoy yourself and all the many opportunities there. Who knows, you may wind up living there for the rest of your life, or you may be back in New Jersey before you know it. Stand tall through your personal anxiety, stand tall through your companies troubles, stand tall in the good and the bad. When you do, you will come out taller in the end. Remember, your character is your value. If you invest in a strong, positive, compassionate and intelligent character nothing can stop you.

Love,

Alexander

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November 17th, 2008 - A Grand Story

by alexmctighe on November 17, 2008

in Letters to the future

Dear Alexander,

 It has been too long since I last wrote you. I know you are very well aware of what I have been experiencing the last several months, but I felt it was time to reach out to you and seek some, if any, advice you can provide me. It is very confusing for me being here in Los Angeles while having the company that I came to work for declare Chapter 7 bankruptcy. That, along with an economy that seems to be out of control has provided me with, easily, weeks of sleepless nights. I think my body actually thinks it is OK to wake up at 3am every morning. I’m sure you’ll give me some reassurance that everything will be OK, but I guess I wish you could give me more than that. Can you? What does the next couple weeks hold for me? Will I have a job, or will I be searching for one in a town I have yet to truly accept as my own?

I’d love to give you a run down of everything that has gone on the last several months, maybe I shouldn’t have let my letters to you fall to the side as I dove head first into my move to Los Angeles.   Maybe I was supposed to experience the dramatic changes in my life that have occurred in the last year. I break up with my long time girlfriend, I leave New York and New Jersey for Los Angeles, and my company declares Chapter 11, then Chapter 7 bankruptcy.  But, what is it that I need to learn from all of this? What can I take from the experiences? If I was supposed to experience these dramatic changes, am I actually benefiting from it all?

Has everything been just happenstance? I mean, am I looking too deep into everything? Is it really just like finding the little coincidences and putting them together to tell a grand story? I know, I am asking you a lot of questions. I guess my hope is that you might provide me the answers I need. I know you can’t tell me everything. Maybe if you do, I’ll make sure you meet that girl you married. You did get married, didn’t you?

Well, that’s all I can say about that, but I do think we need to keep up the communication. Write soon, I need the advice.

Yours,

Alex

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